Privacy Vs Trust? You decide…

During one of these random weekend plans i bumped into a wonderful couple I know.

As we were catching up, the conversation suddenly drifted to phones and why women should not go through their guy’s phones.  

Yes…it is wrong to go through your better half’s phone. Why? because it is theirs not yours..you have no right to disrespect his/her privacy…

Besides, when you go through your better half’s phone..you find what you were looking for in the first place….argument after argument…until…we all agreed to disagree..lol

What I actually want to address today is the WHY…Why the urge to go through his phone?

Is it mistrust? is it insecurity? maybe a bit of both?

Men need to understand that women don’t just wake up in the morning & choose to go through your phone. 

Truth be told, there is usually a reason behind it. (well unless she is a psycho & dangerously insecure type of person) here’s my take;

1.  “the need to know” 

You see a guy’s phone will tell you all you need to know about him. By simply going through his texts & photos you will learn the truth about his feelings for you, what his friends think of you, what his family thinks of you, what sort of lies you fell for, e.t.c

You will find his inner most secrets… his financial situation, his fetishes, his frustrations, his fears, e.t.c All that stuff he tries so hard to hide from you.

The more secretive you are..the more she will want to know.

2. Men are creatures of habit..

In just 6 months of dating a guy you can almost predict his day. Which is fine really..the problem begins when there is a sudden shift/change. 

In the beginning you never had a password then all of a sudden you put a password.

In the beginning you would call or text all day, these days you take a whole day to respond…

In the beginning you used to make an effort to surprise her, take her out, buy her gifts, spend quality time with her..all of a sudden you are too busy, too tired or just wanna chill with the boys.

In the beginning you gave her your undivided attention..all of a sudden you are distracted and constantly texting God knows who..

Get my drift?

3. She knows

Women’s instincts are 99.5 % on point. We know when guy’s lie..we just choose to be in denial..

If you are busy juggling life with her and someone else..trust me she already knows.

Chances are; She has noticed your change in behaviour, she saw you text that side chick, she saw you with said side chick, she was told by someone close to you about your secret endevours…e.t.c 

4. You darn pissed her off

Women will be patient and ignore all the bullshit until that one day you really piss her off….My friend, That is the day she decides to “investigate” and drop them bombs on ya 😊

Many women I know decided to start investigating their men after a huge fight. Maybe you said something odd or she wants to know what really caused the fight. Whatever the reason is, she will get to the bottom of it.

So yeah, to all the men out there here’s some advise;

1. Open up to her as much as she does. She just wants to understand you.

2. Don’t stop making an effort simply because she is yours now. Someone out there will do it and you will lose her.

3. Women are not clueless, they know. Quit acting like James Bond and stop with the cheating already. If you really love her, she should be enough. Otherwise stop wasting her time and just set her free.

4. Don’t say things in the heat of an urgument that you know will come to haunt you. Women never forget what you say and how you made them feel.

Final advise…Trust is earned…

That’s all for today folks 😊